Monday, March 23, 2009

20 Months

Today is 20 months for Andrew and I.

I have already said many times on this blog how much I love and adore him and honestly, I don't know what else to say about our relationship. It's not perfect, and sometimes it's hard, but we work together to make things right for us. We get questions from people sometimes about why we don't hurry up and get married since we'll both be finished with school in a few weeks (weeks, really?!) and why our intended date is 2 years off, but it works for us. No one else is in this besides he and I.

We argue occasionally, but who doesn't? And really, 9 times out of 10 it's my fault to begin with. I suppose he gets the short end of the stick since this is really my first real relationship. I have heard to many people tell me that first time things never work out and I may as well cut it off now and go date other people, but can they honestly believe that when they see how happy we are together? I'll be honest, I used to believe it too, but now it seems so right. And I will admit, sometimes I want to hurry up and make our intended wedding date a little closer, but it just wouldn't be right. It will be perfect when it comes and we won't have rushed to get things together.

Hopefully we will be settled into a house, Andrew will have taken and passed with flying colors the CPA exam and we will both have good jobs. We won't be newlyweds searching for a place to rent and trying to scrape things together. We will be established and ready to start a new chapter of our lives together in a more powerful sense. And yes, I do know that it will be at times difficult to make this life together, but we get so much from each other I feel that we can handle just about anything that can be thrown at us. We've already handled a lot and that was just 5 months into this thing we have.

I know that he will be a wonderful husband. He is already the best boyfriend (I can't stand that word. There has got to be something else.) I could have asked for. I wouldn't want anyone else standing beside me through all life has to offer. I can see us. It will be perfect.

1 comment:

  1. Sorry I'm late to the party, but happy (belated) 20 month anniversary!! I always hated the word "boyfriend" when I was dating Donald too. The term "boyfriend" signifies, I don't know, it just seems so much LESS than what Donald was to me, it felt like an inadequate term.

    I never did find a better one, though, because saying "significant other" made me feel pretentious.

    As for the naysayers? If you are both happy and the relationship is healthy, ignore them. Sometimes, when you know, you KNOW. Enjoy your time together, no matter what other people think about your choices. They aren't the ones in the relationship.